Lighthouse Residential Treatment Center
in association with Milestone Counseling Services
Individual Therapy begins by discovering your son's individual story. This will help us find out how he understands the world around him, what his memories are, as well as what his fears are. Finding the truth behind the behaviors is the starting point to creating a new story for your son. This will help us identify and change the distortions created by your son's fears, that have brought you to this point.
Our main treatment model for Individual Therapy is Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT) that treats the problematic patterns created by the relationship between thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. In essence, the treatment model follows the idea of "fruit of the poison tree." In other words, inaccurate thoughts lead to problematic emotions which creates destructive behaviors.
An example of the Cognitive Distortions are:
Denial - If it ain't broke, don't fix it - "There is nothing wrong with me."
Entitlement- "I'm 16 now, you owe me a car!"
Shifting blame- "It's your fault that I did this" - "If you would have just given me what I wanted..."
Victim stance- "Everyone is out to get me" - "they all want me to fail".
Minimizing- " It wasn't that big of a deal" - "it didn't hurt you that bad."
The CBT model is intended to interrupt vicious cycles such as self-fulfilling prophecies and other problematic patterns.
The goal of CBT is to develop accurate thoughts, effective emotions and therefore, productive behaviors. In a similar fashion, but opposite direction, these new patterns become self-reinforcing over time. Once effective patterns have been developed, repetition is the key.
Family Therapy begins as a process of discovery to understand your son's impact on your family and identify what patterns need to change in order for everyone in the home to be successful. Weekly Family Therapy is conducted via secure video conferencing and phone calls with your son that will help keep you connected with him while this work is being done. We also encourage your family to visit him at our facility and we hope that you can participate in our Multi-Family Group Therapy, as well as our recreational activities, whenever possible.
"A family doesn't need to be perfect,
it just needs to be united."
Our main treatment model for Family Therapy (your family) is Salvador Minuchin's Structural Family Therapy (SFT). In this model, the main goal is to create healthy hierarchies and patterns within the family by adjusting boundaries between family members and improving communication. The goal is to help the family be able to make necessary changes on their own in the future. In layman's terms, this is to put the parents back in charge and to help your son take a role in your family appropriate for his age.
SFT is supported in theory and practice by other research such as The Olsen Circumplex Model that has been validated over 1200 times by other studies over the last 30 years. The Circumplex Model suggests that balanced levels of cohesion and flexibility are most conducive to healthy family functioning. Conversely, unbalanced levels of cohesion and flexibility (very low or very high levels) are associated with problematic family functioning. (Olsen, 2001 p .65).
"We may not have it all together,
but together we have it all."
Group Therapy. You have most likely experienced the powerful effects peer pressure has on your son. In Group Therapy, we harness that same peer pressure to positively influence your son's outlook on the issues he is struggling with. For these types of issues, research suggests that Group Therapy is the treatment of choice. This same research suggests that participating in group therapy may expedite the treatment and recovery process due to the mental health benefits of:
When your son discovers that all of his peers in the group are struggling with similar issues, this helps him normalize, find common ground and receive feedback from other "experts" (other peers) who are experiencing success and progress in the program. Your son will feel an immediate improvement by a reduction of depression and anxiety.
For these same reasons, Multi-family Groups are held quarterly for you and other families, to help normalize your experience and understand that you are not alone. Most participants in Multi-family Group Therapy find that insight and feedback from other families struggling with similar issues is both useful and healing.
"The best part about being with a group is that
you don't have to do everything alone." - Anonymous
“Knowledge is Power”
- Sir Francis Bacon
We recognize the importance of education in your son's future, therefore, we provide a comprehensive educational program - this begins with graduating high school. The importance of a high school diploma as a starting point in your son's education and career cannot be overstated.
Data from the Bureau of Labor Statistics demonstrates the importance of education to your son's future with the following information regarding earning capacity and unemployment rates as compared to his level of education. The following graph summarizes this data:
With the idea that the average career spans approximately 47 years, starting at the age of 18 and ending at 65, this data takes on even more significance when these different levels of education and unemployment are compared to each other. For example, the current data suggests that someone with a high school diploma will make an additional $459,472 at the end of this 47 year period when compared to someone with less than a high school diploma. This difference in earning capacity becomes even more exaggerated when those with less than a high school diploma are compared to those with a bachelors degree for a total of $1,593,488 in additional income.
To help your son make this important life change, first, we will assist him with completing his high school diploma with Dorius Academy and assist him with ACT\SAT prep classes. Next, we will enroll him in either technical training through Ogden/Weber Applied Technology Center or two university-level programs at Weber State University or Utah State University. As was mentioned earlier, all educational credits earned by your son will be transferable to your local high school or university. We know that your son's education is vital to his future and, therefore, we will make this a top priority in our program.
“The bow cannot always stand bent,
nor can human frailty subsist
without some lawful recreation.”
- Miguel de Cervantes
At the Lighthouse Residential Treatment Center, we believe that a healthy lifestyle requires a balance between work and play. The benefits of quality recreational activities extend far beyond the obvious physical gains associated with the activity. In addition to teaching your son how to recreate legally, high-intensity sports/activities, helps your son get out of his comfort zone, helps him gain confidence in his ability to concur fears, and make important brain chemistry changes that significantly improve his emotional health. Our hope is that, when your son returns home, some of these recreational activities will be continued and enjoyed by all members of your family in order to deepen the relationships you will have together.
Some of the activities that your son will be participating in include:
wakeboarding/ kneeboarding/water skiing
Our goal for your son is not competition but rather participation and enjoyment. Please be assured that all activities include appropriate safety gear, proper training, and direct supervision at all times.